Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Thoughts on Self-Love

Self-love can be a tricky subject for some people. At first it can sound like something a bit narcisstic or self-absorbed. It's really not, though! You are stuck with yourself for a very long time, so you might as well love yourself, right?

I came across this quote recently and it's one that really makes me think...


"And if I asked you to name all the things that you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?"

How long would it take me to name myself? When I make a list of things I love, I'm at the bottom of the list as an afterthought, if I even put myself on the list. I'm quick to list friends and family, my favorite things to do, and even my favorite places but I don't think of myself when I think of all the things I love.


Thoughts on Self-Love | from Courtney's Little Things


I find that really sad. If someone asked me if I have a positive relationship with myself, I'd say yes. I'm not afraid to spend time alone, I can name a few positive things about myself. But if I'm not writing myself down when asked to name all the things I love, do I really have a positive relationship with myself? Maybe I'm at more of a 6 than an 8 or 9 on the scale of self-love.

So how do you cultivate self-love? One way is by practicing self-care. At it's basics, that means do something to take care of yourself or something that makes you happy. Choose to be kind to yourself.  Don't let any negative thoughts about or towards yourself cross your mind. When they do, silently correct them to something you would say to a friend if she said those things about herself. Another way is by listing things you like about yourself - physical qualities, personal characteristics, maybe some of your habits. Let go of perfectionist tendencies. No one's perfect and it's impossible to expect yourself to be any different. Don't compare yourself to others. If social media is what causes you to compare, stay off it for a few days or stop following the accounts that cause you to feel bad about yourself. 

If you want to see some more ways, check out this blog post with 55 ways to love yourself by Anastasia. As Oscar Wilde said...
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."


Do you love yourself? What are your tips to cultivate self-love?

Related Posts: Self-Care Ideas


8 comments:

  1. I'm definitely going to write a list about what I like about myself, thanks so much for the idea :-)

    moremindfulyou.blogspot.com

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    1. You're welcome :) I've written one before and it is actually very nice to look at and see all these great things about yourself!

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  2. Loved this post. Self-love is quite a difficult term really - It's difficult to know what it means when we're so bred to hate ourselves by society. (it's improving, but still)

    E x
    elleanorwears.com

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    1. Agreed. It's hard with all the comparison we do as well with models, actresses, photo-shopped images, "big" bloggers, and all the other people we compare ourselves to. And I guess that's probably part of how we're taught to view ourselves by society - always in competition with others.

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  3. Loved this post, thank you for sharing Courtney! I think I really did learn to love myself over the past one or two years I'd say but the thing you mentioned about the list really got me thinking. I'll definitely write down what I like about myself so I can read it over on days where I'm feeling a bit down about myself.

    Sara x / aboutlittlethiings.blogspot.com

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    1. I've improved my self-perception a lot and learned to love myself more over the past 2 years, too. It's something you always work on since it's easy to let all that go when you're having a bad day/week.

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  4. Love this post and the list you linked! On that site, there was also a challenge to write those 10 things you love about yourself every week! Sounds like a good step towards self-love to me!

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    1. I know, that post is super helpful!! Honestly 10 things a week would be a real challenge because I'd feel like they need to be 10 different things each week.

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