I came across this quote recently and it's one that really makes me think...
"And if I asked you to name all the things that you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?"
How long would it take me to name myself? When I make a list of things I love, I'm at the bottom of the list as an afterthought, if I even put myself on the list. I'm quick to list friends and family, my favorite things to do, and even my favorite places but I don't think of myself when I think of all the things I love.
I find that really sad. If someone asked me if I have a positive relationship with myself, I'd say yes. I'm not afraid to spend time alone, I can name a few positive things about myself. But if I'm not writing myself down when asked to name all the things I love, do I really have a positive relationship with myself? Maybe I'm at more of a 6 than an 8 or 9 on the scale of self-love.
So how do you cultivate self-love? One way is by practicing self-care. At it's basics, that means do something to take care of yourself or something that makes you happy. Choose to be kind to yourself. Don't let any negative thoughts about or towards yourself cross your mind. When they do, silently correct them to something you would say to a friend if she said those things about herself. Another way is by listing things you like about yourself - physical qualities, personal characteristics, maybe some of your habits. Let go of perfectionist tendencies. No one's perfect and it's impossible to expect yourself to be any different. Don't compare yourself to others. If social media is what causes you to compare, stay off it for a few days or stop following the accounts that cause you to feel bad about yourself.
If you want to see some more ways, check out this blog post with 55 ways to love yourself by Anastasia. As Oscar Wilde said...
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."
Do you love yourself? What are your tips to cultivate self-love?
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